This is part 3 of a 3 part series.
Using technology responsibly – Advertisers have perfected the art of showing us that technology is for me, myself, and I. No one else. It is about making me look good, making things easier for me, so that I can do what I want more of the time. But our kids need to learn that technology, like every other thing in our world, needs to be used responsibly and for the purpose of honoring God. Like any other tool, it can be abused and used for selfish motives, which is why we need to put accurate safeguards and boundaries around it. Key affirmation: “You can use technology to advance God’s Kingdom instead of your own empire.”
Purity – We could write several articles on the way culture is making purity out to be some kind of leprous disease. With all the negative press purity has gotten these days, our kids need constant affirmation that any choices they make toward purity (IE: making a commitment to stay pure until marriage, choosing not to watch the latest blockbuster because of inappropriate scenes, etc.) are good choices. It shows their maturity when they decide not to look at certain websites or to hold off on pursuing a relationship until God gives the go-ahead. Whenever you see your kids making these choices, pat them on the back, give them a hug, tell them how proud you are of them, that they’ve made the right decision and that God is pleased! Key affirmation: “You are choosing to walk in purity before the Lord. That is good and I am proud of you! You are sowing seeds that will have an incredible reward.”
Discipline and Correction – Our culture has made discipline out to be some kind of horrible offense parents impose on their children. Kids are growing up with the idea that if someone corrects you or disciplines you, it means they don’t accept you. But God’s word says He accepts those He disciplines and corrects (Hebrews 12:6). Although it can be hard to see, our kids need to realize that by correcting them, we are actually saying “I haven’t given up on you – I know you are capable of doing better, which is why I am saying something!”. Granted, we need to lean into the Lord about how we discipline – so that we are doing it after His Spirit and out of a desire to help our children make progress. Key affirmation: “You are accepted, you are loved, you are capable of better than this. God can help you change.”
This article was adapted from Project Blessing by Kay Hiramine.
Julie Hiramine is the Founder and Executive Director of the ministry Generations of Virtue (www.generationsofvirtue.org) that equips parents to empower their children for purity in our world today. As an internationally noted speaker, author and Christian leader, Julie has encouraged and impacted parents and teens both in the US and internationally through her speaking and written materials. Julie graduated from Pepperdine University with dual Bachelors’ degrees in Non Profit Business Management and Sociology. Julie’s background in youth ministry has shaped her into a passionate advocate for raising the next generation to fulfill their God-given destinies. Julie is based with her husband, Kay, and family in Colorado Springs, Colorado and at their other home in Conesus, New York. Julie is homeschooling her five daughters: Brianna, Stacia, Alissa, Hana and Mikayla.